I’m currently 7-ish months pregnant. As a style lover (check out my Instagram – @theluxurie) living in the most tumultuous 7 months of my life thus far, in terms of my body drastically changing all the time, hasn’t just been hard to deal with, it’s been downright unpleasant at times.
Don’t get me wrong, the joy and privilege of carrying a little human hasn’t gone unnoticed. It’s special and exciting. But there are days when pulling on yet another pair of leggings with an oversized sweater has me looking wistfully and my “other” wardrobe and dreaming of putting on that little high waisted denim skirt with the cropped blouse and some kitten heels.
I’ve had to fight somewhat hard to keep my sanity in and amongst all these changes at a time when I usually would’ve found some solace in my wardrobe, I now too don’t have that. Most days I feel frumpy, tired and super un-sexy. (My ladies have changed so much that I’ve resorted to wearing sports bras…this is sacriliage. I miss my little satin and lace lovelies!)
As a result, I’ve come up with a plan of action to assist my sanity, and by direct extension my husbands sanity, as he has to hear me quietly mutter at my ever growing bump and ever shrinking wardrobe options.
The keys to not feeling frumpy and unsexy in my book is then as such:
1. Build your inner confidence.
The first step is reminding yourself that you are creating possibly the most special and magical experience you’ll ever experience. Your body is growing a human. This surpasses any insecurity and thoughts of self-doubt and fear. You are a warrior! Pull yourself up by your bootstraps and get on with it.
2. Frequent pampering sessions.
This may seem small, but setting time aside once a week to fully pamper myself has been life saving. Doing full body exfoliations and baths, pedicures, manicures, face masks, you name it has not only made me love my crazy looking body more, but it gives me time to reflect. To reflect on my connection with my hubby, my new sweet baby, my new life. Taking time to soak it all in is all you need to manage this major transition smoothly. There’s also something about a good mani/pedi that just makes a girl feel put together.
Down to the details. I used to insist that I would never wear just sneakers or sandals when I was pregnant, but alas, it being winter, I’ve practically salivated over anything totally flat and boot like. However, the seasons are changing and I’m busting out my super cute kitten heels (an inch or two never hurt anyone) and am committing to commit. An adorable pair of shoes never did hurt a girls morale.
Fun accessories will be a life saver when all you can muster is a sweater and leggings. I’ve elevated my looks many a time by simply adding statement earrings or a bold handbag. You can also play with necklaces, bracelets and rings. Remember to have FUN. Minimalism be damned.
I refused to buy an entire wardrobe of maternity clothing simply because I knew I wouldn’t wear half of it for longer than two months. Instead I invested in two or 3 maternity jeans and pants, some super long tank tops and an abundance of sweaters from H&M’s Basics section. I’ve also managed to squeeze into some of my other sweaters, t-shirts, dress shirts, cotton dresses and leggings. The days that you get sick of wearing the same thing again are days to get creative! My low rise boyfriend jeans still fit through all this time so I wore those with a tee and kitten heels for a fun but semi polished look. Or belt a maxi cardigan over a dress or leggings to give yourself a figure. The options are not endless, but they do exist.
Remember to wake up in the morning, to put on a dab of mascara and lipstick, brush your hair and face the day. Doing these little things will help set the standard for what I’m assuming will be a crazy first few months. I’m preparing myself for sleepless nights, lots of throwing my hands in the air and deep breathing. But I know I can set myself up for success by creating healthy habits and routines now that are flexible enough for mommy-hood.
Let me know some things that you did as a new mom to help keep you sane!!